The Love Drug

The Love Drug

The Love Drug

Besides the catchy tune, there is a good reason why Kesha’s song “Your Love is My Drug” stayed at the top of the chart for weeks on end. Most of us, at one time or another, have experienced the excitement of being “in love.” It’s a total mind and body transformation.Your brain space is filled with thoughts of the other person morning, noon and night…to the point of being obsessed. People can stay up all night talking on the phone, e-mailing and texting. Suddenly food and sleep become secondary forms of sustenance. Your career can even suffer, as focusing on work is no longer a priority. Logic goes out the window and judgment begins to get a little hazy. The new lover can do no wrong. Hundreds of years ago, the term “madly in love” was coined. It’s no wonder why. The crazy behavior people exhibit when they are in love is because of the brain chemical called Dopamine. In fact, individuals who suffer from schizophrenia generally show an over-abundance of Dopamine in their brain. Even OCD is linked with excessive levels of this chemical. That is because Dopamine tends to suppress our normal ability to control impulsiveness and ruminating thoughts. The “love drug” is so amazing that people want more. If seeing each other feels great two times a week, why not five days a week? Let’s just move in together tomorrow so we can see each other every minute! It is easily addicting. In fact, Dopamine works in the same way that heroin and cocaine work in the brain. Lovers are usually looking and planning for their next fix. Couples are no longer recognizable to their friends or family. In fact, they often times disappear from social events and commitments, claiming they are just too busy...too busy spending time with their new “crush.” Unfortunately the “love drug” is short lived. Having a crush feels wonderful, but the body can’t handle being in that state all the time. Most people lose weight for instance when they are first involved in a new relationship. Dopamine boosts metabolism so much that eventually the body would fizzle out from running at high speed for too long. It was designed to attract and draw a couple together, but that’s it. So, expect Dopamine production to taper off dramatically at some point.This is when you see things more clearly. When you’re basking in the thrill and excitement of a new relationship, try not to dismiss your logical brain all together. People look so perfect in the light of Dopamine that it can be difficult to see the shadows of reality. Couples that make long-term commitments during this stage of a relationship may be disappointed later on. Always try to keep good friends and family in your immediate circle. Trust them to tell you the truth. They are not under the influence of this “love drug” and may be helpful in preventing hurt… or worse…a broken heart. YOUR LOVE IS MY DRUG – Kesha Maybe I need some rehab, Or maybe just need some sleep I've got a sick obsession, I'm seeing it in my dreams I'm looking down every alley, I'm making those desperate calls I’m staying up all night hoping, Hit my head against the walls What you've got boy is hard to find Think about it all about it all the time I'm all strung up my heart is fried I just can’t get you off my mind Because your love, your love, your love, is my drug Your love your love your love I said your love, your love, your love, is my drug Your love your love your love Won't listen to any advice, mamma's telling me to think twice But left to my own devices I’m addicted it’s a crisis! My friends think I've gone crazy, my judgment is getting kinda hazy My status is gonna be affected if I keep it up like a love sick crack head What you've got boy is hard to find Think about it all about it all the time I'm all strung up my heart is fried I just can’t get you off my mind Because your love, your love, your love, is my drug Your love your love your love I said your love, your love, your love, is my drug Your love your love your love I don't care what people say The rush is worth the price I pay I get so high when you're with me But crash and crave you when you are away Because your love, your love, your love, is my drug Your love your love your love I said your love, your love, your love, is my drug Your love your love your love View "Your Love is My Drug" on You Tube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QR_qa3Ohwls

Comments ( 2 )

  • Profile photo of Michelle

    Right on Gina !!!! I know I’ve been there. 🙂 The question is – can you stimulate the release of dopamine after you’ve been a relationship for a while ?…. and why does the new love stimulate the release more than the long term love ?

  • Profile photo of Gina Guddat

    Great question. Dopamine was designed for initial attraction and mating, so it will always decrease somewhat over time. But you can activate dopamine again in your relationship by doing new or novel things together. Plan a fun adventure, a weekend get-away or a trip to somewhere new. Spice up your sex life by trying a new position or technique. Surprise your partner with a sexy outfit or sensual night gown. In a long-term relationship the chemical oxytocin will eventually work it’s magic as a bonding chemical. It is a bit less exciting, but it creates a wonderful sense of security and safety.

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